H40: Happiness Along the Way

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This episode (as well as the upcoming next three) are recordings of conversations that Jonathan and I had while I was on a quick mid-bardo trip back to Philly this month.

my kids getting me at the airport

Today you’ll hear us discuss how we are thinking and feeling about happiness, flow, our lives, our year, words and hallmark cards.

The show is brought to a close with Kirsti Gholson‘s “happysad poetry pop” tune, The Ice Is Melting.

Happy holidays and cozy dark nights,

Amy

 

 

 

H39: Sam Harris Is Making Me Happy

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In today’s episode I chat with Kara about my birthday and my recent explorations in happiness, wellbeing, ethics, Sam Harris, good, evil, hitchhiking, and eating moldy food.

I also want everyone to watch this TED talk by Sam Harris, or check out his books or his blog so we can have fun pondering these things together.

Today’s musical endnote is the song “The Secret in the Garden” by Chris Grunwald, aka Griz.

Thanks for everything, y’all.

Amy

 

 

 

H38: Kara Helps Me Talk About Fun (and other things)

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Yes you heard me, Kara Tennis is back! Today she joins me “in the studio,” helping me to explore and express my “abnormalities,” talking about the word “fun,” explaining why people get triggered by me, and expounding a bit on the ways I do and don’t get hurt.

Just in case anyone wanted to know.

And if you’re in the mood to get jiggy wit it, Plume Giant gives us a sweet harmony to close out today’s show.  I hope you enjoy it.

H37: Life-Purpose: To Have fun? To Grow? Or um... What?

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In my final four (“Season Six”) interviews with Daniel Mackler, I’ve decided to let our conversations (and therefore, these podcasts) remain mostly unedited, and to surpass their usual length.  So you’ve got a whole hour to listen to here!

Today we talk about all kinds of things, like: who is Daniel’s audience (and the brand new essay on his site); the difference between “teaching” and “sharing;” clues that Daniel gives and how to test his theories; the idea of “shoulds;” the purpose of life; and more debate (is that the right word?) about Amy’s methods vs Daniel’s.

To be continued, as always…

xoAmy

H36: Season Six Intermission - Happiness

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While Daniel is off gallivanting around the world, back here in Philadelphia I continue to ponder.  Today’s show is a brief update on my latest thoughts about happiness, being a happiness consultant, the “gap” I sometimes perceive between Daniel and me, and thoughts about starting a whole new podcast.

Never a dull moment!

Happiness35: Daniel vs. Amy

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I chose the title for today’s episode with hopes that you would think it was funny. (Did you?)

What I’m trying to do in this and the next three shows (C35, S35, P35) is to pick at Daniel a little bit, in search for an explanation of why I feel such a gap between the way I am and the way Daniel is – even though I don’t quite disagree with a word he says.

So far, I haven’t gotten to it.  But today’s show is my first stab, for what it’s worth.

We also touch on various topics along the way, including objective truth, black and white thinking, our similar and dissimilar goals, and being a ‘Denial Buster.’

Today Daniel said “Ultimately, the real objective answer comes from within… because we are all perfect deep inside, we all know the truth deep inside.”  I’m going to be pondering that one for a good long while.

Another thing he said was “Just test it for yourself!”

And for that I’ll give him an Amen.

Happiness34: Daniel on the True Self

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In today’s show Daniel defines the True Self as: Who we really are as a person, the real honest core,  the essence of what makes us human, the part of us that is perfect, beneath all the traumas (all the hurt, wounds, rage, anger, frustrations, dissociation, fake happiness, projections, fantasies), the part that is connected to truth and knows truth.

When asked, How does one find one’s true self?  he said: Be as honest with yourself as you possibly can be.

Kinda really simple, and kinda really really really hard.

Daniel also lists several things you can do to connect with your true self (apparently the same thing as “self-therapy,” I realized today). If you want to see some of those ideas in black and white, here is an essay Daniel wrote on the subject.

I also recommend his little book on self-therapy (written with his best friend Fred, who I can testify is also a rare (and delightful) soul.) Even though it’s only 44 pages, I recommend taking a year to read it, because it’s not the reading that matters – it’s the actual doing that makes the difference.

So many people claim to know the secrets to being “happy, healthy and wise.” From where I’m sitting, it seems the only place you’ll ever really find those secrets are buried deep inside you.

So how ’bout go on in there, pull up a comfy chair with yourself, and stay awhile.

xoAmy

Happiness33: Daniel on Happiness

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Welcome to Season Six!

As you might recall, Season Six is dedicated to hearing the truth according to Daniel Mackler. Why? Because I said so. And I said so because I think he’s smart.

In today’s episode Daniel talks about why he’s really not at all into the idea of “happiness,” and thinks it’s a bit “ewww” that I call myself a “happiness consultant.”

He also touches on other things like addiction, success, dissociation, honesty and the true self.

One more note about the way we’re playing the “Season Six Game:”

After 12 Daniel-episodes (3 shows for each of WWA’s 4 threads), there will be a final interview on each thread, inspired by questions and comments from the audience.  As you’re listening to the next several conversations, please feel free to send me your criticisms, reactions and thoughts (via email or by posting a comment on whateveramen.com) and I’ll ask Daniel to respond to your feedback.

And in other news, did you notice that it’s almost spring?

xoAmy

Happiness32: Sister Sarah Asks Me Some Questions

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Sarah asked me about composting, being the oldest of five, my favorite flowers, my childhood acting career, my latest projects… and other stuff, n stuff.

my family in 1979 ish

bleeding hearts in the garden at the river house

bleeding hearts in the garden at the river house (*love!*)

 

 

 

 

Amy as Peter Pan (1976)

Amy as Peter Pan (1976)

Amy as a parrot

Amy as "Some Dumb Parrot Thing" (1981)

the neverending (I hope) mural project

the never-ending (I hope) mural project

wintery wonderland

frozen rain barrel art

two of the sisters

somewhere along the side of the road in Mexico...

Happiness31: Veronica Asks Me Some Questions

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Between friendly giggles, Veronica asked me some questions, like:

veronica lacerda arao

sweetness!

Why are you a happiness consultant, and what are the best and worst parts?
Where are all the places that you have lived?
How do you take care of yourself?
What’s your favorite kind of tea?

Lenine, a favorite Brazilian singer-songwriter of Veronica’s, sings the closing song called Paciência Acústico (or “Patience.”)  Veronica tells me it goes roughly like this:

Even when everything asks for a little more calm
Even when the body asks for a little more soul
Life doesn´t stop

When time goes fast and is on a hurry
I say not, I waste a time do a dance
Life is so rare

While everybody waits for a cure for evil
And the craziness pretends that everything is normal
I pretend having patience

The world keeps turning always faster
We wait from the world and the world waits from us
A little more patience

Is it time that we are missing to understand?
Will we have this time to waste?
And who wants to know?
Life is so rare, too rare

Even when everything asks for a little more calm
Even when the body asks for a little more soul
I know, life doesn´t stop