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Sex&Love2: Dissertation on Non-Monogamy

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I am a member of the mindful polyamory meetup in Philly. At a little gathering at my favorite local bar last week, I met Brittany Griebling, a Ph.D. student at the University of Pennsylvania who for years has been doing research on non-monogamy.  There was a lot of interest in this topic the last time we covered it, so I figured we’d cover it again.  We didn’t have time to get too in-depth (25 minutes go by SO quickly sometimes!), but if you’re new to the idea of open relationships you’ll probably enjoy this sweet little introduction.

If you have a non-monogamous lifestyle or relationship and want to be a part of her study, Brittany would love to hear from you at bgriebling@asc.upenn.edu. (She accidentally added an extra “@” when she said her email over the air, but most people can probably figure out that email addresses don’t have two @s in them… right?)

Thanks Brittany!

2 comments to Sex&Love2: Dissertation on Non-Monogamy

  • Megan Odhner

    Really interesting topic. I’ve been married for almost 10 years with no desire for a polyamorous lifestyle, though have no problem with anyone else doing it. So I was a little surprised to hear something that applied to
    my relationship. It was when Brittany was talking about how important it is to acknowledge that, though happily married, we are still sexually attracted to other people. My husband and I have been open about this with eeachother. I actually think it is beautiful that while my husband is attracted to other women, he still chooses me, and vice versa. This seems preferable to the idea that he is blind to all else, and thus stays with me because it’s the only option he is aware of.
    I was raised to believe that monogamy is the only acceptable lifestyle. I am so grateful that there is thoughtful discussion happening about all ways of relating to each other.

  • Anna

    My sweetie and I know each other’s tastes really well – we have fun pointing out people who we think the other would find attractive!

    I was also raised to believe that monogamy was the only acceptable lifestyle, and in my practice of an open relationship now, this old belief still shows up in many subtle ways. (Actually, I was brought up to believe that marriage was the be-all and end-all of life, with the corollary that cheating was terrible. I didn’t know that open and honest relationships with multiple partners was even a possibility on this planet – I’d never even heard of such a thing until 7 or 8 years ago.)